A Nigerian woman currently residing in the United Kingdom has opened up about the emotional price she has had to pay since relocating abroad without her husband. The woman, who requested anonymity, left Nigeria in 2023 in search of better opportunities, joining the over 1.5 million Nigerians who “japa” (relocated) that year.
Speaking to Vanguard in an exclusive interview, she revealed the depth of her longing and emotional strain caused by the separation from her husband. “The most painful experience since I relocated is missing my husband,” she said. “As you know, the recent immigration law in the UK that started January 1, 2024, doesn’t allow family members to travel with students, and my master’s programme started on the 1st of January. So, for me, that is the most difficult experience I’ve had to endure.”
According to the UK-based lady, she embarked on the journey for the sake of a better future, citing the deteriorating conditions in Nigeria. “We decided to take on this journey because of the state of our country—the insecurity, amongst other things. We wanted easy access to other parts of the world, and, most importantly, we did it for the future of our children.”
Despite her emotional struggles, she does not regret her decision. “Definitely,” she said with enthusiasm when asked if the move was worth it. She remains a swim instructor in the UK, the same profession she practiced while in Nigeria.
Detailing the financial burden involved in her relocation process, she disclosed that they spent around £13,000 on tuition fees, £2,000 for visa-related charges, including Immigration Health Surcharge (IHS), tuberculosis tests, and biometrics. Her flight ticket cost ₦750,000, bringing the total cost to about ₦17,250,000, based on the exchange rate of ₦1,100 per pound at the time. She also had to provide a ₦12 million proof of funds, although this was not spent.
Since the start of 2024, the UK has tightened its visa policies, restricting the right of international students to bring dependents and narrowing post-study work opportunities. As a result, student visa applications from Nigeria have dropped significantly. Data from 2024 revealed a sharp rise in visa rejections for Nigerians—from 1 in every 31 applications in 2022 to 1 in every 8 by the end of 2023.
Nonetheless, she continues to find hope and beauty in her new environment. “There are quite a few things to be thankful for. But what stands out the most is how beautiful it is in Wales. The nature is just breathtaking, and I can’t wait to visit other parts of the UK.”
Although she currently lives apart from her spouse, she remains optimistic about reuniting with him and building a stable life abroad. She also expressed a strong willingness to help others migrate abroad if she had the means. “If I have the means, I will help others relocate in a heartbeat,” she added.
Still, she does not entirely rule out returning to Nigeria someday. According to her, family obligations and business interests could influence her return.
Her story adds to the growing narrative of Nigerian migrants who, despite facing tough immigration laws and emotional hardships, continue to seek greener pastures abroad for themselves and their loved ones.
